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The Time of Our Lives: Growing older well by Robert Dessaix

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October 2020, no. 425

The Time of Our Lives: Growing older well by Robert Dessaix

Brio Books, $32.99 hb, 256 pp

The Time of Our Lives: Growing older well by Robert Dessaix

by
October 2020, no. 425

In the garden of a hotel twenty minutes from Yogyakarta, a group of hopeful, middle-aged Westerners gyrate anxiously to the strains of LaBelle’s greatest hit. Unlike their young Balinese instructor, they are fighting a losing battle. Why bother? Robert Dessaix wonders. Next morning, his travelling companion answers in her husky smoker’s growl, ‘It’s death they’re afraid of – or at least dying.’

Do we most fear negation or the ‘broken hips, the strokes … the dementia and painful feet’ – the debilitating pain of ageing? Dessaix’s search for answers takes the reader on an eclectic journey through Western and Eastern literature, art, and thought, from Epicurus to the Japanese concept of yutori – ‘having the time and space – and even the resource – to do, with a sense of ease, whatever it is you’d like to do’; from Borobudur to Tasmania; from Dante’s concept of hell to absurd contemporary visions of paradise; from Leo Tolstoy and André Gide to Diana Athill and Eva Hoffmann. In between, Bette Davis quips ‘old age is certainly no place for sissies’, and Dessaix’s delightful cast of Virgilian guides impart skerricks of their hard-won wisdom. Hungarian Sarah, ‘looking more and more like Maggie Smith’; Katharina, ‘gaunt but full of life’; Gide’s granddaughter Sophie Lambert: all these glorious, elderly women, whose gusto for living remains undiminished by shrivelling prospects, seem to have achieved contentment, ‘blander than happiness but more reliable’.

Francesca Sasnaitis reviews 'The Time of Our Lives: Growing older well' by Robert Dessaix

The Time of Our Lives: Growing older well

by Robert Dessaix

Brio Books, $32.99 hb, 256 pp

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